After I published a post a couple of weeks ago, talking about The Fear, I have had lots of beautiful messages from my friends and family. Partly, I think, out of concern – don’t worry, I really am kicking life’s ass at the moment! That post wasn’t meant to be negative at all; I just wanted to be honest about how scary life can seem sometimes because I don’t think we admit to being human enough. But I was so touched by the messages I got from all sorts of people. There was one from a dear Bangladeshi friend, who’s words were so poetic and heartfelt that they made well up. There was the little message from a former colleague just letting me know he enjoyed the blog. Or the reassuring comments from old friends: you’ll be fine, chick.
Why am I telling you all this?
To remind you how amazing it feels when somebody takes the time to reach out and say “well done”, “good work”, “you’re pretty awesome”. Especially for me blogging, when it feels like you are putting all this energy out into the world, to get an acknowledgement or a compliment makes it all worthwhile. But it doesn’t just have to be the big stuff or even people you know: how good does it feel to get a compliment on your outfit from a stranger on the tube?!
As this gets published, I will be at a festival with two of the most gorgeous women I know – gorgeous is all aspects of the word, just beautiful people – and I’m going to make sure I tell them that. So here’s my challenge to you: pick up the phone and call/text/What’sApp/tweet/Facebook etc somebody and just say something lovely. It doesn’t need to be huge but I guarantee everybody has The Fear every now and again and maybe all they need is a little reassurance from a friend.
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